As mothers, we hold a powerful role in shaping the lives of our children. It’s not just the care we provide or the lessons we teach—it’s who we are as women, how we feel about ourselves, and the energy we bring into our homes. Empowered mothers raise empowered children, and this starts with healing our relationship with ourselves. The Dalai Lama once said, “The world will be saved by the Western woman.” This powerful statement underscores the potential for women to lead the way in healing and transformation.
For many of us, motherhood can trigger a deep dive into the past—old patterns, wounds, and insecurities come bubbling to the surface. Our children have a unique way of reflecting back what we’ve buried. While that can feel overwhelming, it’s also an invitation: a chance to rewrite the story, heal the relationship we have with ourselves, and break the cycles passed down through generations.
Why Empowerment Starts with Us
In my Holistic Energetic Rebirth sessions, I’ve seen time and time again how unresolved trauma—especially in women—finds its way into the body. It manifests as pain, dysfunction, or a disconnection from our true power. And here’s the thing: when we feel disempowered, our children notice. They absorb our energy and learn how to see themselves through the lens we hold for ourselves.
When a mother struggles with self-worth or carries unhealed trauma, it can show up in how she engages with her children. Are we constantly criticising ourselves in front of them? Do we downplay our successes or shy away from our desires? Kids are like sponges, soaking up these behaviors and internalising them. Over time, this can become the foundation for how they learn to value themselves—or not.
Breaking the Cycle
This is where the magic happens. When we, as mothers, decide to take responsibility for our own healing, we don’t just heal for ourselves. We heal for our children. We show them what it means to overcome adversity, to rise after falling, and to love ourselves despite the scars.
In my Holistic Energetic Rebirth sessions, we work on deep energetic shifts, clearing out old emotional patterns, traumas, and blockages. By reclaiming our energy, we free ourselves from the narratives that keep us small. Our healing is their healing. As we step into our power, we create a ripple effect that allows our children to step into theirs.
The Power of Thought and Energy
Dr. Emoto’s famous rice experiment is a perfect example of how our thoughts literally shape the world around us. By speaking positively to one container of rice and negatively to another, the difference in outcomes was astounding. The rice spoken to with love and positivity flourished, while the rice exposed to negative words became moldy and decayed. This experiment isn’t just a metaphor; it’s a reminder of how our energy affects everything—especially the little ones watching us.
When we constantly criticise ourselves, belittle our accomplishments, or carry negative beliefs about who we are, that energy filters into our interactions with our children. On the other hand, when we nurture ourselves with positive thoughts, self-compassion, and empowerment, our children feel that too. They learn that it’s okay to make mistakes, to embrace their uniqueness, and to love themselves fully.
Fathers Play a Role Too
Now, I know some people will ask, “What about fathers?” And the answer is simple: yes, fathers play an incredibly important role in empowering children too. Both parents have a profound influence. However, my work centers around the maternal lineage and how, for many women, there’s a deep connection between their emotional well-being and the messages they pass down to their children.
The journey to healing isn’t exclusive to mothers, but it’s often mothers who carry the emotional weight of generational patterns. By healing ourselves, we offer our children the gift of emotional freedom and self-love while also challenging the societal norms that have placed the burden of caregiving, emotional labour, and self-sacrifice on us for far too long.
Let’s Start the Change
As mothers, we have the power to raise a generation of empowered, self-loving, and emotionally resilient children. But it starts with us. It starts with healing the relationship we have with our own bodies, hearts, and minds. It’s time to stop the self-criticism, reclaim our energetic power, and embrace the fullness of who we are—not just for ourselves but for our children and the generations that will come after them.
When we are empowered, our children are empowered. Let’s show them what it means to love ourselves unapologetically. Let’s break the cycle of negativity and create a new story for the future—one filled with empowerment, love, and healing.
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